Services for men
Men may also find it difficult to disclose abuse and to get the help they need and deserve. They may be physically, enotionally or sexually abused by their female or male partners.
All of Cheshire's statutory agencies undertake to meet men's needs in the same way that they respond to women experiencing abuse. In addition specialist support services are provided regionally and are available for gay men locally.
Where to find help
Men have exactly the same rights as women to be safe in their own homes. All statutory services (such as Police, Crown Prosecution Service, Housing Department and Social Services) have a duty to provide services to all - male or female.
Men are protected by exactly the same laws as women - anyone who has assaulted another person, regardless of the gender of either, can be prosecuted. If you are a man experiencing domestic violence and you need energency help you can call the Police on 999.
Specialist men's support is available from the national Men's Advice Line.
Men can access all services covered on the getting help page on the getting help page on this website.
- 24 hour national helpline
Telephone: 0808 2000 247
- Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre
Telephone: 01925 221546
- Victim Support
Telephone: 0300 303 1979
Chester Sexual Abuse Support Service
Chester Sexual Abuse Support Service who have been established in Chester for 15 years and offer telephone information, signposting and face to face specialist counselling to women and men aged 18 and over who have experienced sexual violence at any time in their lives. They are affiliated to Rape Crisis England and Wales. The telephone support line is open on Monday's and Wednesdays from 6-8pm.
"I feel like the only one"
You may feel as if you're the only man who has ever experienced domestic violence but you're not alone. Although research shows that it is mainly women, this doesn't mean that men don't suffer too.
Figures on the extent of male victim vary considerably so it's difficult to state with any accuracy the true extent. However, there were 7.1% of women and 4.4% of men who reported having experienced any type of domestic abuse in 2013, equivalent to an estimated 1.2 million female victims and 700,000 male victims.
It may be hard to admit to yourself and to others that this is happening to you but it's not your fault and you can get help.
It's different for men - isn't it
There are both similarities and differences. Some of the responses to violence from a partner are the same.
Whoever you are being hurt by, being hurt by someone you love and trust can be devastating. You may feel bewildered and confused. You may wonder if it's your fault. You may feel too ashamed or embarrassed to tell anyone.
If you do tell, you may find that you are not believed or that your abuse is trivialised. For all victims of abuse, the message is the same:
- You are not alone
- It is not your fault
- Help is available
If you don't find the right help immediately, it's important that you keep looking until you find someone who can support you at this difficult time. It doesn't make you weak to ask for help.
There are also important differences that can often be lost when we assume that what we know about women experiencing domestic violence automatically applies to male victims too. For example, many abused men may feel that they aren't 'real men' if they admit to having experienced abuse.
Child contact disputes
The family courts deal with all child contact disputes on a case by case basis. Evidence of domestic violence will be taken into account and decisions about residence and contact made accordingly.
Recent research shows that men are rarely denied their parental rights by the courts. If you're concerned for the welfare of any child you can contact: